Who am I once the nest is empty?


These are questions we ask ourselves throughout our lives. It seems as though these questions never carry more weight than once our children grow up and leave the nest empty that we spent years building.

Over the years, we pour ourselves into them. Feeding them, nurturing them, creating memories with them, building special moments for them at every holiday and the list goes on and on. When we become a parent, we take on the role of mother immediately. A beautiful title that we are blessed to carry.

But it is only a role, it is not meant to consume our entire identity. It is not meant to be our identity.

No matter what season of life we are in, it is important to remember one truth: our identity lies in Christ alone.

The truth is we are not useless once our role of raising our children is done. There are a few things that are important to remember when the door of being an empty nester opens:

Enjoy the moment. This may be difficult to do at first, your emotions are running high. Allow yourself time to grieve but then…. make a deliberate and conscious effort to soak in the little joys of the day. Do not overwhelm yourself with what will be next, be content in the moment and take one step at a time.

It is okay to put yourself first. We often put ourselves last when we are raising our children. Remember, raising our kids is a season in our lives. God created us for more. Now is the time for self care, self-discovery and if you have neglected it, building your relationship with Jesus.

Relish in the good. If your children are mature enough to be independent adults, then CONGRATULATIONS! You have done your job as a parent. You have raised a functioning adult who can contribute to our society and this is something to be pleased with.

Never forget you will always be mom. Just because your kids have moved out of the house does not mean they do not need you. You are transitioning in the way you relate to them. Get to know your child as an adult. Discover the deep-rooted friendship with them that has been in the process since the day they were born.

Dive deeper into your identity in Jesus. You are not the same woman you were when your child was born. We are ever changing. Being an empty nester affords you time to pray more, study scripture more and uncover more about who you are in Christ. This is the beginning of a new chapter. Refocus yourself to this new stage in life.

Isaiah 43:19 For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.

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