Updated: Oct 10, 2018
People say a leopard never changes its spots. Well that's true - a leopard never does change its spots but this saying is used about people and that's what makes it dangerous. We need to be careful about flippantly using and accepting hand me down sayings and traditions, without ever questioning them, testing them.
Here's another example: "Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me."
How many of us have been wounded by cruel words, inappropriate words, name calling and labels? Did it hurt? Of course it did.
So, let's go back to, "A leopard never changes its spots".
This is used to say that people never change or can't change. It's a saying that relates to all people too because it doesn't say, "certain leopards". Now we know that a leopard doesn't have a choice about changing its spots., but we as people, do. This saying would have you believe that people essentially don't have choice and that people cannot change.
We do have the ability to choose and therefore we also have the ability to change. Change is choice.
If you really want to change, you can. You may need to replace bad habits with good ones or destructive thought patterns with life-giving ones, or negative mind-set with positive one but whatever it is you need to do to be who you want to be or to get from where you are to where you want to go, you can - even one step at a time.
You are not a leopard and you CAN change, you DO have choice.
If you are struggling with a major life change or life choice, perhaps you don't like the path you are on, maybe you are having difficulties with your relationships, you hate your job or you are stressed with life, maybe you know you were made for more but you have no idea how to go about it, you're stuck and need help getting unstuck, you have unrealised goals and dreams...whatever it is, if it involves choice and change, I can help. I am a certified life breakthrough coach and I am here to tell you, change can happen!